"Don't judge me because I sin differently to you"

I saw this statement on a friends fb status and it struck home. I have tried hard in my life to not judge people on their 'sins'. Its not for me to be their judge and jury. I don't hold on to small things that people do to me, i try to think about them as a whole. Not just the one action. And when you do that it becomes easy to love people.
It does take me some time to work through the hurt feelings after a bigger disappointment and I often vent to a close friends group about the so call 'wrong' against me. I'm human after all.

The point is, over the last 5years I have had people judge me on the little things. The mistakes I have made. I didn't get the memo that i was perfect... I know I'm not. I know that I am maybe to straight forward, those that know me will know that I don't like to lie. So rather not ask me if you want me to give you the bullshit version of the facts. (unless your asking me if you look FAT in an outfit, because I'll plead the 5th)

I don't think that anyone should keep score. Why would you want to? why would you want to list someones faults? Is it to better them? Is it to make you feel better? is it to better the relationship?
Or just because your hurt and want to kick someone in the teeth.
How would you like to have your sins listed? Do you know you have faults? I know mine. I work every single day at them.

Most of the people in my life will know that I will go out of my way to help someone I love.
That sometimes you need to hear things that aren't pretty but are truthful. That love has different forms.
The way people show love are different. I'm not a huggy touchy person. Does that make it harder to love me?
I don't shower people with fake complements. If i feel the need to complement someone i will. Does that make me harder to love?

A friend told me to love unconditionally, and as a Christian you want that love from God. So its right to be able to offer that love. And i try.
But it doesn't mean that I have to be a victim.That i have to put my heart in the firing line of people that don't understand me.

I am stronger and happier than most people know. I have things that are hard in my life. Doesn't everyone? but it doesn't define me.

This isn't a rant about anyone. This isn't a pointing fingers at post. The reason I'm putting it out there is firstly for myself and secondly for other people finding themselves in the situation, be it on the making up or receiving of your list of sins. Think hard before doing it. Think about your motives. If its not to be positive then don't do it. This world is full of negative people/actions as it is. Don't add to them. Just remove yourself from the situation. If you are on the receiving side of it, read it, see if you are at fault. You don't need to let it be a walk over and you certainly do not need to remain friends with someone that thinks its OK to be your Judge. But learn from it. See how people see you. I have.

So i say again "Don't judge me because I sin differently to you"

Love is...

Do you remember the 'love is...' phase?

Well love is different for all of us.

When we are children its about the first look, or the first touch.
When we are teenagers its about the first kiss. But these relationship base on only attraction do not last.

We grow up, and realise love is more than that.

For me love is..

The way my husband shows me every day he loves me.
From the sweets under my steering wheel to the text to say 'have fun'
The way he supports me and allows me to follow my dreams. The love he shows me while looking after our children. For helping me create this beautiful family. For being next to me in church. For the massage after a shit day. For the takeaways instead of me cooking. For the fights as passionate as our love. For forgiving me when i have made mistakes, for not reminding me about them. For understanding how small my heart is. For buying me rechargeable batteries for my birthday. (don't be gross, its for my cameras flash)
For taking the kids to school, because I'm not a morning person. For knowing my limits. For coming home for lunch. and for alot more...which would make Mr Grey blush.

Babes, neither of us are perfect. And every day i am thankful that we have made mistakes, as they have made us stronger.
The fact we are together after 8yrs of marriage, that we can still kiss that i cant feel my legs, is what i want for the rest of my life. I love you x12430874397 plus infinity.